• Phoenix in Paris

    I am more…

    … than just a paycheck; or a vagina; or a uterus. I am more. I am responsible for my effort and my attitude.  Beyond that, there is little I can “control.” My worth is more than the luck I have with “succeeding” in a career that is valued monetarily.  I have worth even if I fail at every career. I am more than a vagina.  I am worthy of love, even if I cannot give you sex; or sex that meets your standards.  I deserve intimacy. I am more than a baby-making machine.  My worth is not dependent on the number of children I have; or don’t have. I believe…

  • Phoenix in Paris

    Compliments That Aren’t About Physical Appearance

    I struggle with linking my own self-worth to external achievements and other people’s opinions. It’s so important to recognize (and praise) your unique internal qualities and character; things that aren’t dependent on outside conditions. Thanks to Dorkchops for sharing this list of lovely compliments that are more than just skin-deep. “A lot of the time we get complimented on the way we look and we start to think that it’s the most valued quality about ourselves but it’s important to notice how skilled we are and how empowered we are as individuals. I found this list below that has a number of compliments we can start using that focus on how great…

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    Doctorates, Down-Dogs and the Challenge of Self Talk (Guest Post)

    This blog is new to me – but I find this post incredibly applicable! I have been practicing yoga on-and-off for the past year and notice remarkable differences in my mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing when I practice consistently – which is why I’m currently prioritizing it as part of my “life reorganization” (more on that later). I look forward to reading more from Fit Is a Feminist Issue! “The day I submitted my PhD dissertation was also my 95th day of a self-imposed 100 day yoga challenge. I had never intended to complete both tasks in such quick succession. Indeed, the fact that I actually completed either task at all…